I love the New Year. Not because I love to go out to cheesy bars, pay too much to get in, and fight crowds of underage partyers to get a drink. No, those days are way over for me, thank goodness. I love New Years because it is almost like a do-over. It’s a time to look at the past year, all the great things you have done, all of the not so great, and start fresh. I went to Catholic school for pretty much my entire life, and New Years is almost like a giant confession. You go in, talk about your sins, say a few Hail Marys, and you are all good. You can start fresh. It’s a New Year for Pete’s sake!
So much has happened to Cody and I this year. We moved to Portland for Los Angeles, I opened urban waxx, we bought a house, he has become very comfortable in his job as a Sous Chef at South Park, and, most exciting of all, we are going to meet our addition in March!
I think that women spend so much time looking forward that we never take a moment to celebrate what we have accomplished. My friend Rebecca Shapiro told me that a few weeks ago, and it really resonated. It’s true. As soon as I finish one project I’m like: “Okay, that’s done…now what?” I spend a lot of times looking at what needs to be done, or fixed, or bettered, as opposed to taking a moment to be proud of myself. And I also think that it is so much easier for women to be proud of everyone else’s accomplishments. It’s easy for us to praise our friends, our spouses, our children…but when it comes to taking praise, no way Jose.
I always have New Year’s Resolutions. They usually involve working our 5 times a weeks and losing a significant amount of weight. But this year I want to be a little different. This year, I am unveiling a kindler, gentler self. I want to be less critical of myself. I want to stress less about stupid stuff. I want to take things less personally. I want to embrace the woman who is bringing a daughter into this world, and show that daughter how wonderful this world can be. How can I expect my daughter to grow up feeling strong and healthy and ready to conquer the world if her Mommy is still fixating on losing 20 lbs and what is wrong in her life?
This morning my midwife, Helen Welch, who I absolutely adore, said to me “Our children watch everything that we do, and mimic it. If they see us treating ourselves well, then they will do the same for themselves.” It’s true. We teach people how to treat us. So, for 2008, there will be no more room for negativity and nonsense. Just positivity and an a deep thankfulness for what I have been given.